The term “Lingam Massage” is originally used in “Neo-Tantra” and is embedded in spiritual group sessions. The ancient Indian Sanskrit word “Lingam” refers to the male phallus. In the field of erotic massage, it is used as a synonym for penile massage, with the aim of delaying orgasm to allow more intensity.
At the beginning of a massage I like to talk about the process and individual preferences, but be careful not to discuss the massage “dead”. Some men also find it more appealing to know less and to get involved with what may come.
Many men are under enormous pressure to perform and are very goal-oriented right from the start. A gentle massage without touching the “center” helps to relax and get into the mood. Dimmed light and soothing music help to create a relaxed atmosphere.
In the classic lingam massage, there is a division of roles. The masseur takes the lead, the other does not have to do anything – may let himself fall completely – close his eyes – breathe in deeply – breathe out relaxed – perceive the touch of the masseur.
Giving up control, passively surrendering to what is happening is very unusual for many men at first. All the more they discover the special quality of handing over the responsibility for the climax to a partner.
Edging stands for orgasm control or orgasm delay during the lingam massage. The excitement is built up slowly. Just before orgasm, the stimulation is slowed down or even paused briefly. After that, the arousal is slowly built up again. The game can be played as long as desired. Several rounds hypersensitize the genital area to a point of no return. Many men swear by the all-redeeming climax at the end – as a full-bodied experience where pleasure flows through the whole body.
A variant is also synchronization: some men prefer a mutual lingam massage at the beginning. Both partners caress each other and explore each other’s body and preferences until one partner takes the lead and the other relinquishes control.
A few more tips …
Some men are totally into nipple play and it must be a part of the program.
Wearing a blindfold during the massage will make you experience the body touches much more intensely.
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